Family Situation.

I'm beginning to get very aggrivated with everything in my family lately, to the point that I'm actually about to rant about it. My aunt, Kathy, has been continually hurt by my evil grandmother and Ana for years, and has finally given up completely ever since my graduation day. I constantly try to have her come to occasions like Christmas and Thanksgiving, and she shows her appreciation that i'm trying to invite her over. However, she basically responds with, "If Christmas is about coming together and loving one another.......it does not happen in the Ward family..I really liked what you had to say but I honestly do not feel like I am welcome there" I just don't know what to say anymore.

Ana, being the bitch she is, has not helped with the situation. I feel like i have two choices. I can take the same road I have been on for a long time, in which I barely talk to her and she does the same thing- easy, to the point. Lately, however, i've been trying to change things. Of course I never meant to take it to the point of being actually close to one another, but since school started I've been sincerely trying to be very nice to her: asking if she needs help, asking about her day, talking to her for about two minutes straight.

Unfortunately, all of my hard work nearly went to pieces Thanksgiving weekend. On Black Friday I bought Monty Python during work (i felt no house could go without this movie) and I kept telling everyone that I bought it when I got home that night from work. I even strolled around the house doing the horse trot that the characters do in the movie! (I'm a dork). I also kept trying to get my dad to watch it with me (Ben had already said yes). Thirty minutes later, my dad comes down and i scream "SO YOU'RE GOING TO WATCH IT WITH US?!" And then he said no, and that instead him and Ana were going to watch the Secret Garden (but he had just watched it a couple days before so it was obviously just ana that wanted to watch it). ...Really?? They didn't say they wanted to watch a movie together and just didn't want to watch that. This would've been okay, i would have been disappointed, but i love watching movies as a family so I would deal. They knew i was so excited to watch it, and just assumed they could watch their own movie instead. It is their TV, yes, but it never came to a matter of ownership. I could tell my dad felt bad. It just hurt that she knew I really wanted to watch it together as a family and didn't even ask or anything. I felt so bad =(

At the same time, I've also been talking to Jenny on Facebook, who is my dad's ex-gf's daughter. And she was such a cool chick, but it seems she was really hurt by Ana as well. "she doesn`t seem to be very intelligent to me. The one and only time I had the honour to talk to her was when you and I were on the phone and she interrupted the call by shouting and finally saying FUCK YOU to me. Don`t you remember that?! As you probably know your dad always told us that it`s not allowed to say the F-word!"

Basically, I've been trying SO incredibly hard to not take the easy path and just ignore her and hate her, mostly motivated by two things 1) no one likes a relationship like that and 2) it makes my dad upset to see it. Most of the motivation comes from the latter of the two. I've been trying so hard to get along with her and my dad has really appreciated it, I can tell. With my love for my aunt and my potentially-half-sister and their sincere hatred of Ana, I get even more confused. I just always end up being the middle girl, being nice to everyone, hearing them say bad things about each other, and just listening to it all. Why?

Family's suck :[